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7 November 2021 by jillblackerofficial 0 Comments

Daily Money Attraction Checklist

I am all about bringing together the woo with the action. When you mesh together both feminine & masculine vibes in your business you get the magic money flow.

Today I want to share with you some daily habits you can try out (because it’s not what I do that will increase your money flow, it’s what you try that feels good for you that will boost your bank account)

Building a business that is actually profitable, and sustainable enough for you to officially become your own (and only) boss is hard because most people focus on doing what everyone else is doing.
They allow it to stay hard, instead of “trying” out strategys until they find one that works for them.

Let’s get one thing clear though – it’s always hard.. it never stops being hard..

it’s just that our mindset shifts from “hard” being such a shit, downward spiral of negative conversations in our head,

to becoming an opportunity to overcome a new challenge, and grow as a business owner.

I’m on my soap box right now, because I want to be clear that everything I share with you about calling in more money into your business, is merely a strategy that you can try for yourself.

These are strategies, I have learnt from others, and enjoyed enough to want to share with you.

Below is 3 daily money attraction things you can do to increase your money flow:

  1. Check your current offiers.
    Ask yourself “What is available for people to purchase from me right now?”
    If you have nothing available for sale – you’re making it extra hard for money to access you. Create offers to sell – even if it’s a $7 pdf.
  2. Write & or read money affirmations.
    I don’t care if you write them or just read them, this works! It creates an energy around you, and sets the tone for what is expected. The more badass and dominating you make your affirmations, the more likely you’ll be to show up in the day ready to recieve money.
  3. Exposure & Marketing
    Show up! Let yourself be known, be seen, be available.
    I love all things woo, such as manifesting and visualising however, I am 100% a believer in doing the work. I always notice that whenever I show up for my business (even if it’s something as simple as revamping my website, simplifying the navigation ect) I notice a leap in income. I believe this is a balance of focusing in on my business as well as giving up physical energy to my business through actual work.
    In order to attract more money, especially through sales, it’s pretty obvious that marketing your offers, and gaining exposure (through networking, showing up on video, podcasts ect) will result in that outcome. The thing is, unless you’re in a launch period, or pushing a big offer, you forget to marketing everything else.
    Take a look at #1 again, you need to have shit available to sell… even if it’s small. You also need to make sure people know about it… even if it’s small!

Honestly, there’s no need to overwhelm yourself with a thousand things to do, in order to attract money.
In fact, that’s likely where you’re going wrong.

Simplify the process, and I can almost guarantee you’ll open up the cash flow gates.

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4 November 2021 by jillblackerofficial 0 Comments

Can we talk about uncomfortable sacrifices?

I’m all calm and collected on the outside… inside, I am freaking the fuck out!
Okay… it’s actually possible, that I’m freaking out a little on the outside too 🙈🙈

Today… we did a thing.

A HUGE thing.

An extremely uncomfortable thing.

A sacrifice in order to prioritize the life I want so badly to bring into a reality..

We enrolled Miles, into day care!!! Ah I feel a little empty, and uneasy but I know that this huge step, is a giant leap in the most productive and time-effective way forward.

Once a week, for a few hours in the middle of our Thursdays, Miles will be hanging out with new friends at the pretty impressive-looking daycare that is around the corner from our house.
Our goal, is to open up uninterrupted time that both Adrian and I can dive deep into the creative tasks that move the needle most in our business. This might be recording new podcast episodes, or preparing content for upcoming programs.

Whilst we do work from home 100%, and can choose when (and where) we work at any given time, it’s still a challenge to focus with an 8month old who’s not only incredibly cute but also very adventurous.
We have made the decision to sacrifice a few hours once a week of time with our little man, in order to create the income we want to call into our life.

Sometimes we do need to make tough AF decisions. One’s we don’t feel 100% satisfied with.
For us, the big picture is. to open up more money, and more time to create more meaningful experiences and memories with our family.
We want to be less distracted when we are with our kids, and less distracted when it’s time for work.

It can be quite taboo when you work from home, to talk about having your child in daycare. It brings up a feeling of guilt. A feeling of “shit parenting”
I refuse to welcome those thoughts into my day.
I refuse to feel shitty about having ambition.
I refuse to feel guilty about creating wealth.
I refuse to be that woman.

I choose to be Selfishly Unstoppable… and I know… I KNOW that serves the ones I love in the greatest way possible. It allows me to be fully me, energized, and fun. The version of me they deserve in their life.

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3 November 2021 by jillblackerofficial 0 Comments

Creating habits to reach short term goals

There’s something to be said about setting short term goals.

As creators and leaders in the online space, its not uncommon to have really big goals & plans for our future selves.
My entire brand is built on the idea of showing up for that future version of yourself, the version that has all the subtle luxuries you would love to welcome into your reality.

The thing is – we often spend far too much time on our vision boards and writing down our dream day with every new online program we sign up for, yet so little time unpacking the steps required to take next in order to move closer to to making that day actually happen.

This is where short term goals become your secret weapon.

Recently, I recorded an episode on the podcast [selfishly unstoppable] with Coach Mack, of Running with Bacon, and she taught us about a thing called habit stacking… whilst we didn’t discuss this concept in the way I’m about to with you, it’s definitely worth listening to so that you feel motivated and inspired to implement what I’m about to share…

Short term goals, become the stepping stones that are intentionally lined out in the direction of our big ass vision. Their intention is to create clarity, and reduce overwhelm.

The short term goals can be then broken down into a series of habits, using the habit stacking strategy coach Mack and I share in episode 4 of the Selfishly Unstoppable Podcast.

This month, I am reaching one of my short term goals of reaching 1000 downloads {on the podcast} by creating a habit of blogging every day in November. Every morning, with my coffee, I will sit down to blog before I start work on our ecommerce business for the day.

My big vision, is to be able to step away from our ecommerce business {either outsource or sell it} and focus solely on evergreen products that generate passive income as well as online coaching programs, where our income is generated 100% virtually, rather than relying on physical products that require production and dispatch.

Reaching 1000 downloads, is a short term goal that is definitely aligned with the big vision I have, because reaching more people that I can help & motivate will create a community who feels a sense of know like & trust with my brand. Something that is crucial to sustainable long term success as an content creation based business.

I’ve shared my example of a short term goal and a habit I have begun to create to reach that short term goal, what’s a goal you can set right now, that nudges you closer to your bigger vision?

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1 November 2021 by jillblackerofficial 0 Comments

It’s called “carving out time” for a reason…

I have never been one to struggle with making space and time for my creative work. It seems to just open up for me.
Perhaps it’s just that I am doing what I love, so the mind can easily tune in, and find pockets of time simply by casting a misty fog over all other tasks that remain pending. Has that ever happened for you?

One part of you knows you have quite a lot that really should get done, perhaps it’s laundry, perhaps it’s a bunch of appointments you need to call and book in… perhaps it’s organizing your daughter’s costume for the party she’s been invited to this weekend…

Then you tune in to the business you’re casually growing on the side, and something you love doing, appears on your mental to-do list… suddenly you pull out your laptop & jump right in… everything else becomes blocked out by the mist of being in flow.

Well, lately, I find myself in new circumstances.
A time in my life, where I find myself with a child, (8 months old now) and still not sleeping through the night, nor napping well during the day… time seems limited.
I still have the same 24hours in my day, I’ve always had.
The same 24 hours in my day that my mentors have.
The same 24 hours in my day that you have.
Yet the days seem to race away before I even get a chance to explore my mental to-do list, and experience the state of flow that I formally found so easy to tap into.

For the past 8 months, washing has piled up, going days between laundry.
School commitments become lost in a pile of “I’ll get to it laters”
and my business is running on autopilot.

If I am honest – I am grateful that I do already have a strong business foundation. I have consistent sales that flow in daily without very much effort or thought.
However, I am working on a new stream of income, where I can create & sell online programs sharing the wisdom I myself, have invested soo much time and money into obtaining over 18 years of building my own online empire.

I love that there is so much opportunity to express myself creatively and tap into the state of flow that allows the rest of my to-dos to be covered over in the glorious misty fog that comes with being inflow.

In the past 8 months, I have come to realise that, the ability to “tap in” and step into that flow state, isn’t as easy as it once was.. in fact, it’s hard as fuck!
It got me thinking as to how many others struggle with this?

It brings me back to time.
We get lost in the thought of “wanting, needing MORE time” and this thought alone is impossible.
No-one can obtain MORE time… in fact, with every passing second, we get less time.. and that is just how life moves forward.

So what we really need to confront is the realization that we must use the time we have in a state of control. Full control.
A really knowing of what is getting done in the time we have been allocated as living beings on this earth.

I really do love the saying “Carve Out Time”
It represents a challenge.
It displays true grit.
A real desire to have control.

We can’t just hope we’ll find the time.
We can’t just assume time will become available.

We need to step into the leader of our own life, and understand that if we don’t start controlling the actions taken in time, then we’ll forever be in a state of losing out.
With so many elements in our day that have the potential to consume up our precious minutes, it’s crucial that we decide once and for all how each minute will be spent.
You get to decide, what you will do now, what you will do next.
You always have a choice!
Even when you think you don’t, you do… you’re just making it for reasons that feel like obvious ones.. (like tending to the baby as he wakes… going to work because you have a job… picking up the children because they attend school)

These time accumulating decisions, seems easy, because the effects of not doing them is almost instant…
But what about the impact of not reaching the level of success you vision for yourself?
What about the impact of always feeling like. you are getting no-where?
What about the impact of wishing you’d have started 3 years ago?

It’s somewhat ridiculous that we don’t second guess spending time on others we love – I’m sure you’d choose picking up your child from school over ironing that load of washing….
Heck you’d even stay up til 2am if your child was sick and needed you.

.. but why is it… that you never allow the same priority to your future self? Your vision? Your success?

I’ll leave you with that thought.. let’s see what you decide to do next.

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19 October 2021 by jillblackerofficial 0 Comments

It’s not about KNOWING who you are…

Every program I’ve ever taken, has had a module, or training on knowing who you are. From discovering your core values, to finding your true voice.

But what if… we didn’t need to KNOW who we are…
and instead, got to wake up, and simply decide who we want to be, and spend the day, being that person?

Just food for thought….

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18 October 2021 by jillblackerofficial 0 Comments

Honestly, should I just give up?

I’m not kidding, sometimes I find myself asking this question.

I start ideas, and fail to see them through.
I update my social BIO then change it again weeks later.
I commit in my head to writing blog posts… then never write again.
I create new offers to grow my email list… that I never write to.
I map out programs… that I never launch.

so why the fuck am I still here.

Then it hit me…

I’m still here.

I may not be as consistent as others… but I’m still here.
I may not know how to label what I do… but I am doing it none the less.
I may not blog as much as the ideal version of me does.. but I’m still sharing my message.
I may not launch everything I map out.. but I’m still creating amazing shit!

There are thousands of humans trying to create a BIG life for themselves, by earning income online each and every day.

MOST… yes MOST eventually stop showing up all together.
In fact, I challenge you to look through your DM’s, you’ll find numerous accounts that are “deactivated” or dead (meaning, no fresh posts in months!) if you visit their accounts.

I’m not them. I’m still here.
… and so are you!

When you get down on yourself because you didn’t live up the expectation of the ideal version of you is…
Or the imperfect road you’ve taken so far…

I want you to remember that TODAY you get to decide how you will show up.
It doesn’t matter who you were yesterday.
It doesn’t matter who you will be tomorrow.
It doesn’t matter if it isn’t how you’ve ever shown up before…

All that matters, is the decision you make right now, in this moment, who you want to be TODAY.. then show up as her.

Allow yourself to be selfishly unstoppable!


3 days in & I almost gave up!

Today I actually didnt feel the desire to write.
It is Sunday after all, many would think I’m crazy for even feeling the need to write.

Here’s the thing – there is no need.
Nothing will happen if I had not show up today.
Noone would have even noticed.

That right there… that last thought that popped in my head was the reason I did choose to write today.

That bullshit excuse thats soooooo teeny tiny we let it win almost every time.
It holds soo much power.
Yet the truth is… I would notice.

I would know that I told myself a few days ago when I was pumped as fuck to commit to blogging every. single. day. no matter how short the post ended up. I would know that I bailed on that commitment.

Trust me… past Jill would be sooo pissed!

Sometimes we need to show up when we cant be fucked.
Sometimes we need to show up even tho’ we think noone will notice.

At the end of the day – how you value yourself and the commitments you have made to yourself matter.

In fact they matter most!

If you want to be successful,
If you want to feel confident,
If you want to feel free,
You have to learn to trust yourself.

So start by keeping your own gawd damn promises.

It’s actually no real complicated puzzle as to why you’re constantly having self doubt kick in.. and forever feeling like nothing you try is enough to actually move the needle in your business.

You don’t trust yourself.

Plain and simple.

It’s time to flip the switch from letting others dictate your actions (because after all… they don’t even notice.. *wasn’t that the story you tell yourself when you bail on something?*) and instead dictate your own actions. Own your shit!

Next time you go to throw in the towel, skip a day on your 30 day challenge or bail on that thing you said you’d finally do today… confront yourself. Own the fact you are choosing not to level up in that moment… because that is the truth.

Own. Your. Shit. Then…maybe….. juuust maybe… you’ll change your mind and choose to level up.

blogging in the bath

Okay.. this is embarrassing!

It’s official, I have decided it’s impossible to have a ‘new’ original ideal… or concept.

I just googled, blogging in the bath.

Why? whelp… honestly.. and now embarrassingly, I thought this was a cool hack for creating content that I wanted to share. I’d not tried it based on someone else sharing this suggestion with me… I started writing blogs in my nightly bath all on my own.
Turns out…shit loads of people do this and it’s far from a new or original concept.

Feeling ridiculous that for a moment I thought I had some game-changing content time-saving hack to brace the world for, I almost didn’t share it…. then I realized…

you don’t need new or original content, hacks, or methods to be successful.

Heck, I bet it’s near impossible.
There are sooo many fucking brilliant minds on this planet, chances are someone else has had that same idea and likely shares it too.

The key is… not what we share, it’s how.

How we share it is what makes us unique.
Our unique voice, perspective, and energy is what makes someone else hear it for the first time.
As leaders, it’s our job to educate our community so they can uplevel the way they experience life.
Our community becomes our community by connecting with the way we teach… not so much what we teach.
Of course they benefit most when the what is aligned with their current situation, however its the way and how that draws them in and has them bingeing our content.

If you are like me, and sometimes question if you should share something, thinking maybe its to basic and been done before… 100000% share it!
Your community wants it from you.
Not the other 10,000 people also posting about it…. YOU.

You are their inspiration.
You are their go to.
Step into that and know its how your sharing it that matterrs

Hard day

Today was a hard day..

It really felt like the worst.

I’m sure I am being overly dramatic, but at 7 pm Tuesday I was around 17minutes into a long arse screaming crying session from Miles, and I could feel myself welling up.

you know that fucking shit feeling when you can feel the tears coming and you are praying no one tries to talk to you because you know stringing words together without falling completely apart is impossible.

That was how I felt.

Miles is 10 weeks old & so smiley and chatting *most* of the time. Problem is, he’s going through a bit of a moment when it comes to feeding.
Could be allergies, wind, or even a cold coming on… whatever it is it fucking sucks!!
He screams when I try to feed him with almost every feed. Worse when it’s my right tit. It is stressful, to say the least!

Anywho, Adrian came home, and I’m assuming what I thought was being hidden internally behind silence and a fake smile, was obvious AF to him as he immediately stole Miles from me for a cuddle and to allow me to go take some time for myself… I didn’t even make it up off the couch before crying.

It sucks.
I hate crying, I don’t care who it’s in front of, I just hate it.

I miss creating.
I miss DM convos.
I miss creating courses.
I miss “me” time.

I’m thankful I have given myself the gift of unintentional blogging in this season of my life. In the past, I’d have dug deep to find a message, a meaning, a lesson… heck something inspirational to tie to this story, but not today.

Today I just needed to be real and present and show up for myself.
I decided a few days ago I would make space in my day to blog… everyday.
For me.
Not for any other purpose.

When a message comes through I’ll share it.
When I’m inspired to go deep on a valuable share, I will… and when I just need to write because it feels good… I’ll do that too

Most experts will tell you to always lead with value or end with a CTA (call to action)

Not today.

Today I awaken my Rebel Soul and blog because I want to. Not because it’s required to make a sale.

Time to tune out and tune in.

Saying yes to soul

Saying yes to Rebel Soul

Saying yes to Rebel Soul

I couldn’t sleep last night.

You know those nights when your brain just freakin’ comes alive and you can’t switch it off no matter what you try??

You take your phone out of the room.. only to go get it again 30 minutes later because the idea you just had was too damn good to let slip away and you have no goddam pen or paper.

Welp I was having one of them nights ^^ and honestly, it’s a love-hate relationship.

As you may (or if you’re new to my world, you may not) know, that 9 weeks ago I had my 4th child, Miles.

My pregnancy was fairly cruisy up until the 30th week, when things went downhill faster than .. something really fucking fast.

Long story short-ish, I had complication after complication so my business took a little hit energetically.

I’m stubborn so I kept showing up, however the vibe just wasn’t there and it showed.

Resulting in a bit of a hault in my coaching & my e-commerce businesses.

It’s funny how things tend to happen for a reason though.

Had my business have not slowed down, I’d have seriously struggled and quite possibly had of burnt out

Side note, for those who don’t know me well, I have had my e-commerce business for over 10 years. It’s fairly profitable, I have a team & consistent sales that generate enough income to allow me to have been self employed full time, buy a home, 2 cars & travel constantly (pre-covid).

Even though it slowed down, it wasn’t enough to financially impact my life.

The reason I backstoried a little there, was to bring you to where I find myself today, after 5 months of being in a season of personal challenges, I am craving more than anything, to harness my creativity again.

I don’t love when I am hands off in my business.

I don’t feel fulfilled when everyone’s doing all the things for me.

I am a creative being, who’s energised when I am exposed to new opportunities to help, support and surround myself with driven & determined women.

I belong in the online coaching space. I feel it in my soul.

So for the past week, I have dived back into some online courses I have invested in over the years, to awaken that creativity, my inner Rebel Soul who knows what the fuck she needs to do in order to live the life she so badly desires for her family.

Laying there last night, the words “Rebel Awakening” were running through my head on repeat. No matter what idea popped through, Rebel Awakening was at the forefront.

The messaging coming through for me in the dark hours of the night, was that I am no longer who I was last year.

I am ready for more.

I am ready to step into my true calling and fully say yes to my Rebel Soul.

In order to fully step into who I am with confidence, I need to do the ground work and awaken my Rebel Soul.

So today, April 30th 2021… I am saying yes to my Rebel Soul.

Let’s Fucking Go!